Helping

Help cannot be given - it can only be offered and received.

If I say 'I am helping this person by doing this', I am engaging with fantasy. A less untruthful understanding is 'help is being offered'.

The help that is offered may be received or rejected. Consider Jesus who was crucified. His offering of 'help' was ridiculed, misunderstood and deeply feared. Did that make Jesus unhelpful? No - he was neither helpful nor unhelpful - something being helpful or not is only experienced by the receiver.

Offering help - or - creating the opportunity for help to be received - is within itself an expression of love.

Connecting with someone - tuning or sensing into them, as it were - will reveal if they want to receive help, and if they do, what will be most helpful. This can be described as a direct knowing/sensing of what to do/say, or being present to, or flowing with, what's going on.